Sometimes the challenge of having a friend...or being a friend...is the challenge of being still and nothingness. When I talk about the key ingredients for relationship, I go right to TRUST, RESPECT and COMMUNICATION. I have been reflecting on this a lot lately - the friend thing, I mean, and realize that it's also about acceptance and patience and allowing the other person to be who she is at any point in time. For me, the most difficult challenge is expectations. When a friend says, "I will call you tomorrow" and then never does...disappointment sets in and then I feel friendless - right - not a one in the world!! I wonder, as we age, if the definition of friends changes and our needs for connection also change?!? For a few years I have worked from home and have come to the realization that this is NOT for everyone. How to remedy this? Want to find someone to play with who has like interests and wants to explore and experiment along with me. Want to find someone who will call me and say, "Hey let's go out and explore!" Don't want to be that person most of the time - listening to people say, "Oh but you are such a busy person!?!" How do they know this if they don't pick up the phone and try. Maybe it is a fear of rejection on their part...Martie is so busy, she won't have time for me? Maybe...don't we all go there at times? It's cold and windy and cloudy and I am once again striving to stay away from the sugar - so all of that combined leads to too much thought. Now it is time to take some action and move on!! Maybe some drumming. We completed four more this morning so I'll go and give them a try! Stay warm!!
Lessons in Vulnerability
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