Life is full of beauty and the wonder of creations if we take the time to really be still and look. Now I have to add another behavior to this - LISTEN, really LISTEN. My friend Allison talks about 'perception check' and oh is she right on target. I am seeing more and more signs of people not slowing down, perceiving something from their perspective(OK that's what perption is) and then NOT following through for clarification. Two cases in point: I have been having blood work and other tests done for ??? The other day, I talked to the doctor and asked what he was looking for since I can't go and see him for a few weeks. "Oh it looks like you could have lupus. Go and see a rheumatologist". Please send me the blood test results. OK. Then I get them and they are not the ones from the latest tests. Since Bill's prostate surgery last year, my word that guides life is VIGILANT. If I must pay attention to the beauty that surrounds me, I must also pay attention to caring for myself and questioning those who are my 'partners'??
Then I was excited that I had plans to go walking in the woods with a friend on Sunday. To my surprise, I got an email this morning saying that since I didn't sound definite, she made other plans! Here is my point about perceptions. I was looking forward to the time together!! My question - and then I need to let this go, is WHY did she not ask me for clarification and to see if I was definite before she made an assumption? Sometimes I get accused of asking too many questions, but CLARIFICATION makes for effective communications. Wonder if I will ever get over being disappointed in the actions and behaviors of others. How can I ever get to a simple acceptance and have no expectations?? Sorry folks, that would not be ME!! Fall is beautiful and I will take the time to go walking in a woods with my guy - we work on communications and relationships - still can be a challange after all of these years, but we still grow together!!